The other day, we were talking about "The One that Got Away" -- very well written, IMO -- when I recalled something I'd meant to write some time ago. Maybe I'll call it "The One that Was Not to Be." Because imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, of course.
Just like with the one that got away, nothing is wrong with the one that was not to be. The two of you are happy in each other's company. You do things together, you laugh at each other's jokes; on paper, you are perfect for each other.
That is before the inevitable "Hey, you know what, I think it'll be good if we take our relationship one step further. What say you?" pops up and is accepted.
Then suddenly an invisible wall starts to erect between you. Conversations start to stutter, jokes no longer flow smoothly, especially when noone is around. Both of you realize this, both try your hardest to change it -- both would more often than not fail.
You try to go back to the old jokes, the old way to converse. But it's no longer possible since you're now more than just friends. You notice things you didn't when you were friends. You discover that you're expecting more from him/her -- your former best friend. It surprises you and yet, you can't help it.
With one failed attempt after another, both of you finally decide that it was never meant to be in the first place. What works between best friends doesn't always work between lovers. And so, you call it a relationship and say, "We would still be friends, wouldn't we? We always have our old friendship to fall back to. Right?"
At times it would work. You're best friends again, trading jokes and doing things together. Everything is back to normal.
Other times it wouldn't. The relationship is never the same. What was not to be has cost you both a best friend and a lover.
In any case, the puzzle remains: but we were best friends! What went wrong?
Nothing, really. It was just not to be.
How often have we seen a seemingly perfect couple break up? Girl's beautiful, guy's handsome, both are smart and successful, the similar background, the mutual liking for music -- the list goes on. But when it was not to be, it was not to be.
It's a tough life, isn't it?
Yet, rather than ruing over the one that was not to be, rather than agonizing over how we were once close to this person only to be disappointed in the end, we should be grateful that such person exists at all. We should be thankful that we have had the chance to meet and be intimate with him/her. Treasure the memories, learn from the mistake -- if ever was it one -- and when love comes back knocking, be ready to embrace it once again.
Remember, just because one was not to be, it doesn't mean neither was every one else.
Happy birthdays to Lia and TePe.
Current music: Lenny Kravitz - Lady
Current mood: resigned
Weleh, weleh. Tulisan gua kok jadi kayak gini ya *geleng-geleng*.
baek2 lo sap? (sapiderman maksudnya)
Sapi apa yang bisa terbang?
The other side of the road..
Akhirnya, elu ternyata normal juga toh
Sekali kutulis tetap kutulis.
Wah, dalem nih, dalem (dengan sikap khidmat).
this is by far, your most sappiest post, sapiderman. i never thought you had this... this feminine... side. ini semacam membaca tulisan Dr. Grey gituh -bukan, bukan Jean Grey-. but then again, even the best-selling relationship author got divorce. or so i heard.
seems like your damage control recipe works. mind sharing it with me?
Wah, Pak Dodol emang mantep. Makasih udah mo dituangkan dalam tulisan.....
Been there done that. (Termasuk ngeblog kayak begini, cuman dulu sekitar tahun 2000 belon jaman, jadi cuma diemail ke semua address book, tapi ditaruh di seksi bcc)
Si Singa yang terluka mulai pulih, kayaknya. Kata Istofani, Project Manager baru solusi247, "Apa yang tidak mematikanmu, akan menguatkanmu".
Si Singa, atau Si Sapi Twister, mulai tampak kuat. Lihat aja diksi di blog-blognya yang semakin "dewasa" dan "bijak"...
(Gw orangnya emang gini, Ta)
Wah.. keren.... Ini yg gw butuhkan *copy and paste blognya Renatha , kirim ke semua temen gw yang suka brain washing supaya gw jadian aja ama best pren gw*
Juwi, emangnya cangkul?
Dettol, cari jati diri ke Far East Plaza mungkin membantu.
Inda, terima kasih. Padahal ini tadinya nggak mau diterbitin lho.
Wis, singa apa doyan?
Momon, udahlah, jadian aja kenap nap sih? >:)
Habis gempa, bagian yg lama terpendam akhirnya nongol sedikit ke permukaan.
boleh.
temenin ya Ren! :)
Habis gempa terbitlah terang dong, Son?
Dettol, boleh aja, mumpung deket rumah B-) Kapan?
Ya ren, tenang aja pasti terbit kalau udah tenggatnya.
Kayak waktu kuliah dulu ya, tugas pasti entar juga beres dengan sendirinya.
bwahahah.. si Bison bisa aje pake gempa segala
Ikutan dong ke FEP.. tempat favorite browsing gue tuh walo agak sumpek
btw.. kaget jg gue elu ama detta doyan FEP
i don't think it's your cup of tea anyway..
*sok tau*
sometimes, even when we thought it's over, it will not end until the reality slaps us.
Time doesn't help to heal. It only helps to lighten it. Whatever it is, once mark is made, it will be forever there.
As long as it's lighten, hopefully it will be barely there, that's good enough.
Memories do happen to be remembered.
Pessimistic? Nope.
it's a fact.
*blue..blue.. day*
Like a knife that cuts you the wound heals
But the scar, that scar remains
Jokatz pada vokal dan drum dong ...
Heals nya ya tetep heal yol, Those scar remain ya biarin aja, buat kenang-kenangan.
Gua setuju ama Bison, yang penting sembuh. Bekasnya akan berfungsi sebagai pengingat apa yang telah terjadi, supaya nggak berbuat kesalahan yang sama, mungkin?
Para veteran perang aja bangga ama bekas-bekas luka mereka.
hahaha, kesalahan ya?
i love making mistakes.
beautiful mistakes.
and oh so pretty scars.
those invisible(?) marks.
makes me beautifully fucked up.
minggu depan ya, ren.
tunggu demam gue turun dulu.
dan nurunin intake alkohol gue.
hahahahahaha....
Simalakama Sindrom Pasca Gempa: diambil dikira pelarian, ditolak barangkali jodoh.
Kalo ngalamin, kasih tahu ya Ta.
-doyan kali-
Dettol, makanya jangan suka mabuk-mabukan, apalagi mabuk beneran. Minggu depan kan Audi mudik *hayo tebak hubungannya*
Wis, itu gempa apa diputusin pacar sih?
Ooohhh, sekarang gua tau tabiat proxy ini! Kalo jam 12 ampe jam 1 dia kebuka. Abis jam 6 juga. Oceh deh.
kena banget di ati huhuhu..bisa pas gt ama situasi gw skrg :p
Brumeux Blue...
Luv ur quotes!
Nggak selalu diputusin Ta. Mutusin juga kena gempanya.
Trus kalo hadir the one who probably the one, biasanya ada simalakama sindrom itu..
Halah!
tp kl diputusin kok rasanya lebih sakit drpd mutusin ya?
He he he, Bapak-Bapak dan Ibu-Ibu, semangat sekali ya kalo udah ngomongin yang ginian.
Jadi inget masalah Kalung, Sahabat dan Pacar, en... wah, satu lagi lupa, yang soal cewek nembak cowok.
Sori, lokal Fasilkom :)
Syl, ya jelaslah. Dipukul aja lebih sakit daripada mukul kok.
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