Whoa, only two days remain in Oct and yet it still has just one entry to its name! Then again, for some reason, October always seems lonely *shrugs*. I, however, still feel it's wrong to have an entry a month, so here's one just because.
Nowadays, I seem to have more time for my personal life. I even found time to get caught in the same photograph as an ostrich. And so, one would think a blogger would blog more, right? Because that's what a blogger does and -- like Spider-Pig -- a blogger does whatever a blogger does.
(And thus you start to see what a half-butted entry this is shaping up to be.)
Yet, I've been outnumbered by just about everyone when it comes to blog entries. She's in the middle of nowhere, yet she's already had four entries this month. She's pregnant and has written six entries, nonetheless. He's fish-eyed but has still managed nine entries.
As it happens, the more time I have, the less motivated I am to blog. At first, I attributed it to the so-called blogger's block. Then I realized it was something else. And no, as fun as Facebook is, it wasn't it. Although it did cross my mind.
You see, I started to think that I blogged because I had so much to do with work and so little with personal interests. Blogging, as it transpires, was my escapade from all that. Now, I have enough time to pursue my own enjoyment; why waste it on blogs?
About a year ago -- fittingly on a Sep 11 -- I noted how saturated our blogosphere was. Earlier this month, I found out something else -- something I had not been quite able to put my finger on previously.
That our blogosphere had stopped being fun some time back.
Just look around, you guys: more and more blogs are taking a serious tone. Politics, technical thingumajig (yes, such a word exists, look it up), so-called inspiring (but not necessarily refreshing) views on life. Where's the fun in those? Where. Is. The. Friggin'. Fun?
So blog has becoming more and more a mainstream medium. Blogs are useful and more people refer to blogs than ever. There was even an official Blogger Day. Well, congratulations. Now can I please get back to fighting vampires and comparing friends on Facebook?
And what is this Facebook thingy anyway? Nothing much. Just a site where you can do pointless stuff like throwing sheep, boozing, attacking your neighbor's kingdom, and indulging in self-smugness over being described as intelligent and attractive. Useless. Adding nothing to humanity. Not gonna make a good government. Fun.
Which is what I'm looking for. Nowadays, anyway. Ask me in another four months and for all I know, I might be saying, Facebook? Facebook is for sissies!
All right, I'm done nagging. Now, in keeping with the rest of the bloggers' serious theme, I have a serious question for my female blog readers.
Suppose you have a crush on a guy. Well, I don't know where a 'crush' crosses the border and becomes 'love', but suppose you like this guy so much you've started painting a beautiful future with the two of you in it. Alas, the feeling isn't mutual. K, got the picture?
The question: how would you rather learn the truth? How would you prefer to know that he's not interested? Well, not interested in going that direction, anyway.
Would you like the guy to get straight with you? Look, you're an attractive lady and all, but you know what, I don't think it's working out. Like that?
Would you like to know from someone other than him? A mutual friend?
Would you like him to stay nice and friendly and yet does not make the necessary moves? You know, kinda like a trial period? After six months of not getting further, surely you'll get it?
Would you like him to keep a distance? As in, please, if you're not interested, don't act all nice and cuddly, don't answer your phone warmly when it's from me, I'm not stupid, I'll come around and get the clue eventually?
Because for what it's worth, the guy may in fact be interested after all. It's just that perhaps he's not ready to start a serious relationship just yet. He may be afraid he's rebounding too fast -- and if you watch the NBA, you surely know rebounding too fast doesn't get you the ball.
So help a guy, please?
All right, to be fair, I'll tell you what I prefer should I be the guy helplessly in love with a girl who's not returning the feeling. I would rather she come clean immediately. Yes, it'll hurt like hell. Yes, I will feel the anger, like, who the fish does she think she is? Yes, it may escalate into some mini cold war.
For in the end, it's still better than getting hung to dry.
I know this friend who had such a high hope for this gal. She was all nice and friendly and at times even flirty. What was a guy to feel but be excited? One day, a mutual friend spotted her walking hand in hand with another guy. And that was it, really. The guy lost it and did whatever a guy did, just like Spider-Pig.
Happy Halloween, People. Love the one you're with and don't go looking for trouble.
Current music: Elvis Presley - Can't Help Falling in Love -- randomly picked by Winamp, before you get any ideas
Current mood: happy
Hmm..gimana ya? Tergantung jenis orangnya juga, sih. Tapi ini lu lagi mo survey, kan? Jadi kalo ini kuesioner yang diisi subyektif, gue sih milih tau langsung, coy. Atau dari temen deket juga amat membantu. Yah, sedikit ngeles juga boleh, seperti: "marga elu nggak boleh nikah sama marga gue" (walo kenyataannya sama-sama tau kalo sebenernya boleh..hehehe..).
Iya, musti subjektif ngisinya :)
Jadi elu boleh nikah ama marga apa aja, Juwi? ;)
wuah juwi sukanya langsung.
err, kalau gue mah gengsi bo' kalau ketauan suka ama orang
jadi gue prefer menjalani apa adanya. toh akhirnya akan sadar juga kalau dia gak ada feeling :P
Get "He's just not that into you"
it should be suffice.
He he he, gua kirain anak SMP doang yang gengsi, Bab.
Yol, gimana, gimana? Nyuruh orang laen ngomong, git git?
Lebih milih langsung.
Kejadian sekali itu, jawaban yang gue dapet "you're a friend, a really good friend". Kita tetep temen baik sampe sekarang, ato setidaknya gue ngerasa gitu.
Pindah ke kasus berikutnya, gue udah agak trauma buat nyari tau secara agresif kayak kasus pertama. Jadi nyari taunya diubah dikit jadi pasif agresif. Gue nanya pendapat sang cowo (dengan tampang lugu dan serius) ttg apa yang dia cari untuk tertarik dengan seorang cewe dari mulai pdkt, pacaran, sampe akhirnya nanti nikah. Dari jawabannya, gue bisa nyimpulin, dia pernah dan sudah tidak tertarik lagi ke gue. But he still acts nice and friendly (less flirtatious, though), and I enjoy it. :) I'm keeping myself open...but with no unnecessary expectation, which is hard, because he's all that. Aduh kok jadi curhat.
Gimana nih, membantu?
http://www.amazon.com/Hes-Just-That-Into-Understanding/dp/068987474X
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/He's_Just_Not_That_Into_You
Ooohhh, oceh, oceh. Tapi berlaku juga buat cewek/cowok Asia tak, Yol?
Inda, sangat membantu. Terima kasih. Dan semoga sukses ama bukunya *lho, kok buku*
Hmm, baru kepikir alternatif laen: tulis entri di blog trus berharap si cewek baca, he he he.
Yak, ide lu yg terakhir bole juga. Kalo tu cewe gak baca blog lu (which is impossible kayanya), there's always Friendster's "it's complicated" :-D Ini tergantung cewenya udah terang2an nunjukin naksir beneran apa ngga. Kalo ternyata elu yg salah baca dan bilang langsung, kesannya ge-er banget sih. Kalo udah jelas yaaa bilang langsung tapi yg lebih subtle lah, kasih hint gituuuu. Gak punya pengalaman pribadi euy, dulu dua2nya saling mengejar dan dapet, hahahaha ...
*blunt mode = ON*
hm.. ide lu tentang blog , bukannya that's the one you've been doing all this while?
ya kalo tuh cw emang nembak lu langsung, bilang aja langsung kalo nggak tertarik (balik lagi cara bilangnya tergantung cw-nya, bisa dikasih tau straight to the point or kudu milih kata2 mutiara)
kalo tuh cw nggak nembak, ya lu tau-tau diri dikit lah apa yang bikin cw ge-er ya jangan dilakukan, trus jangan sok ccp atau sksd.
soal buku. sebagian sih lebih ke budaya barat tp intinya sih universal - menurut gue
Bab (Ren, numpang mbela diri bentar, ya :p),
Maksud jawaban gue itu bukan artinya gue nembak langsung, bo'. Nunjukin suka sih iya, tapinya, hehehe..
Ren, gue boleh kok sama marga apa aja. Ada calon :-> ?
juw..
iya juw iya tau :P
ada yg nganggur kan satu .. si berani itu lho :P
ren..
biarpun gengsi pelan2 gue cari tau lah dia itu sukanya gimana2 n menyimpulkan sendiri ;)
tp kalau cwnya terang2an menunjukkan suka, mestinya gak salah ya utk terang2an menunjukkan tidak tertarik. hmmmmmm
Wah, seru, banyak masukan :)
Rin, kalo sama-sama saling ngejar en langsung dapet mah nggak seru atuh. Kalo dibikin sinetron, Bapak Punjabi bisa rugi.
Yol, masalahnya gua kan ogeb kalo soal percewekan. Yang bikin ge-er cewek itu apa sih? Nggak boleh nanya udah mamam belon? Nggak boleh bilang met bobok? Nggak boleh ngirim surat cinta?
Ju, marga Lim boleh juga tak?
Bab, jadi kapan nih?
Eh iya. Thingumajig beneran ADA :-D
To the point aja. Mau syukur nggak mau awas!
Marga apa aja boleh, Ren. Nggak punya marga juga boleh, hehehehe...kesannya desperado banget ya, gue.
Maafkan, itu bukan hanya kesan, hahahahaha...
Bab, yang nganggur itu sih udah jelas nggak berminat ama gue! Buset deh, lu :-D. Lagian lu yakin, dia nganggur :-p?
Ren, sebenernya kalo cewek udah suka, apa pun yang lu lakuin bisa bikin ge-er, kok.
iya, re.
jangan deket2 klo poto ama burung onta.
ntar di patok loh.
setuju ama juwi!
lu tanya mau kemana aja bisa bikin dia melayang kalau udah suka :)
soal kapannya ..
hmm, mungkin lusa atau di lain hari ....
Ren, sebenernya kalo cewek udah suka, apa pun yang lu lakuin bisa bikin ge-er, kok.
Hi hi hi...setuju ama Juwi.
Ntar lama2 dia sadar sendiri kok, Pak. Apalagi kalo udah ketemu korban baru.
J, ya adalah, elu kira gua ngarang? :)) Kalo gua ngarang mah bikin yang kerenan dikit.
Wis, elu kira tuh orang mau nembak?
Juwi, tapi kasih tau dulu gih biar jelas: elu cowok apa cewek?
Rin, ternyata nggak sakit kok dipatok burung unta. Beneran! Soalnya dia paruhnya tumpul.
Bab en Inda, kalo gitu sama dong ama cowok. Kalo udah suka, dibentak aja serasa dinyanyiin lagu cinta. Yang nyanyi James Hetfield.
gw pilih yang ketiga :D
tapi ga mau sampe 6 bulan...
hehehe biasanya 3 bulan juga gw udah nangkep sih :p
Juwi, tapi kasih tau dulu gih biar jelas: elu cowok apa cewek?
Sebenernya nggak terlalu penting sih, gue cewek apa cowok, hehehehe...
"Juwi, tapi kasih tau dulu gih biar jelas: elu cowok apa cewek
Sebenernya nggak terlalu penting sih, gue cewek apa cowok, hehehehe..."
Yang penting kasih sayang ya :) .. wah ini mah semboyannya anak Mesin ..
Vay, sebenernya kalo menurut gua 3 bulan itu lama juga sih. Udah ganti kuarter tuh, udah dapet bonus.
Juwi, penting buat yang mau nyeponsorin kamar.
Panda, yang penting kasih sayang dan kamar.
Eh? Apa hubungannya sama kamar?
Ren, itu mangkanya elu gak pernah nonton kisah kita di pelem2. Kalo si Panda dulu ngejarnya lewat tujuh gunung, sawah, dan lautan sambil brantem sama naga naaah, bapak Punjabi bisa jadi kawan baik sekarang.
*ehem* Balik ke masalah utama:
Nggak boleh nanya udah mamam belon? -- boleh.
Nggak boleh bilang met bobok? -- erm, agak nyerempet sih.
Nggak boleh ngirim surat cinta? -- Plis deh, yg ini gak usah ditanyain.
Tapi stuju ama juwi, kalo tu cewe suka sih dilirik aja udah bisa jadi 10 posting di blog deh (kalo jaman dulu 10 halaman diary).
Soal kamar coba ditanya itu suamimu, ngapain aja kemaren ;)
Diary zaman dulu bukannya yang ada kata mutiara segala itu ya? Trus bikin kepanjangan dari huruf-huruf nama. Facebook banget nggak sih.
Thread ini, eh, postingan ini, seru abis deh.
Emang biasa gitu bukan? Lama-lama blog ini gua jadiin blog cinta deh.